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  1. Sorry to hear about your Grandmother Sel.. Awesome news about your coming out :). Can’t wait to read what you write
    Luv Noels

  2. What can I say Selena, you said it all! I felt the same way when I lost my grandmother. Most of all they never die, they live on in your heart! I still miss gran today & always will. My grandmother had unconditional love, I only hope I could be half the woman she was.

  3. So have you got a clean desk now. I can clean it up if you like:)

  4. I’m so glad you have finally come out, no more late nights hiding away writing. OH Wait, you still will be.

  5. Hi Selena, Not sure what test characters are, but really liked your generated idea on Jenny! πŸ™‚ We like to think all of our tax pros have super powers!! πŸ™‚ Darla (socialmedia@hrblock.com)

  6. Glad to see you are owning up to Procrastinating

  7. Hey, it’s tamara and I definitely agree that gay marriage should be legalized πŸ™‚

  8. Selina, words well put …
    Perhaps the accepted institution of marriage requires another evolution.
    Social challenge may well be for wider acceptance of different words to describe the different ways people have made or intend to make a permanent commitment to a partner.
    My wife and I were married in a church as that was what we accepted and understood was the done thing from our own family histories … now later in life, and not having a strong bond to any particular church or religious institution, I’d expect a ceremony which met the required government provisions in a place of more relevance to us personally may be chosen instead of a ceremony in a church.
    I don’t know enough about current legislation to understand any rights you may not have from a demonstratable de-facto relationship than a legal “Gay Marriage” … are there many? Does the Big C add any additional weight to demonstrating a legitimate defacto relationship is in existence, if such evidence is required?

  9. Dan, I agree with the institution of marriage needing to evolve. Quite simply, in my opinion, there are two types of marriage – holy (as in, sanctified by God) and civil (legal in the eyes of the law and recognised by government). I have no beef with church-based marriage. It’s not something I would have chosen for myself even if I were straight. I think we need to look at the civil side of marriage, as there are rights and responsibilities that are afforded by the government when a marriage is legally recognised. Most of those laws have been amended now to encompass de facto relationships, which is a great step forward. There are a few remaining though, such as immigration laws, which depend on a legally recognised marriage.
    As for our Big C, we signed a commitment certificate in front of about 60 friends and family, and wifey has threatened on more than one occasion to wield it if necessary to prove breach of contract πŸ™‚ As for proving anything legally, perhaps intent with regards to our relationship, but we’ve never needed it. Our wills and powers of attorney would probably be more sufficient, as the times when we’d need them (ie life and death situations) would probably be those times we would need to prove a relationship. Besides, we have 60-ish or more people who’d vouch for us if we needed πŸ™‚

  10. Hey Selena,
    I love what you have written. I was wondering if I could steer my Year 11 Legal class to your blog for our upcoming Family Law Unit? Personalising stakeholders makes the issue so much more ‘real’ to the students. I always share with the students how I feel about the subject but there is nothing like hearing it from someone other than your own teacher.

  11. I’d be delighted for you to steer your class my way Nat. I’m happy to answer any of their questions as well if you like. I can be emailed directly at srsblog at hotmail dot com

  12. I love it! I’d already read the book – but this is beyond anything I did! πŸ™‚

  13. Your wife is too good to swap! Lol!

  14. Thanks Kirst. Wifey says your a suck, lol.

  15. Had I have heard it ( Assuming I were the lesbian goal keeper, and dont think it hasnt crossed my mind) I would have just said “31” or whatever…It really angers me that that calling someone gay (or insinuating) is supposed to be an insult, if I got called gay, i would either ignore it, or correct them for mere factual purposes… It is unbelievable. Now I know I am sounding like a mum here, but this person is clearly a moron if that is the best sledge they can come up with, I like a good sledge, but it has to be clever! (Climbs down from soapbox)

  16. I agree. The fact that insinuating someone is gay is still thought of as being offensive is, in itself, offensive. Like I said though, water off a duck’s back.
    By far, the best sledge against me (that I can remember) was a few years ago. I had a great rivalry with a particular striker, and in one particular game, she put a ripper of a shot past me. Rather than celebrate though, she picked the ball out of the back of the net and as she walked past said “See you again in about 30 seconds”. Now that’s a sledge πŸ™‚

  17. Bahahaha! PML at this one. Problem is I could actually see you having this arguement with yourself! XO Sarah

  18. Bahahah. PMSL. I hope you have a good sweeper cause you know what would of happened if your lil sis was playing like old times!!!! Any excuse to get in a bit of a rumble!!! Pathetic sledge. I would have just, re-adjusted my balls and given her that little grin!!! Bahahaha

  19. More please!!! I was just getting into it! When it’s released I will read it before I give it to Bryds πŸ™‚

  20. I’ve been thinking about this Civil Union thing a little more seriously over the past couple of days, since it hit the news headlines (and facebook newsfeeds).

    Things I don’t like about the proposed Civil Union legislation:

    (1) It’s being introduced at state level. I wish it were being done at federal level. Why should a Civil Union be available in Queensland but not in another state.

    (2) It still won’t be possible for same-same couples (even in Civil Unions) to adopt.

    (3) Andrew Fraser (et al) are not doing a good job explaining how Civil Unions compare to ‘de facto’ relationships, and how this legislation will impact on people in de facto relationships (positively or otherwise).

    (4) It’s still not marriage. And it’s about bloody time Australia had men marrying men and women marrying women, and it’s about bloody time Marriage Celebrants didn’t have to say that rubbish about ‘a man and a woman’.

    Things I like about the proposed Civil Union legislation:

    (1) It applies equally to couples of any gender combination. (Too bad the media is so skewed on the proposed Civil Unions being gay gay gay same-sex same-sex same-sex, rather than reporting it factually, as being for all. Sigh.)

    (2) It gives male-female couples the option of receiving the legal protections of a civil union which marriage would otherwise provide, if they so choose. Except, of course, they wouldn’t be able to adopt. (Because only MARRIED couples make suitable adoptive families, did you know that?)

    (3) It provides simple documentary ‘proof’ of a relationship, which may come in handy in the event of a legal or medical issue, or death of one of the partners. I have fortunately not had to deal with this kind of scenario myself, but I suppose that if you are in a de facto relationship, it would be harder to prove, especially in the event of an emergency.

    (4) Related to the point above, there are some countries in the world that recognise couples who are in a civil union for the purpose of immigration, but not if they are only de facto (I have heard this is the case in Ireland, for example). In Australia, this isn’t an issue (so long as you can prove you have lived together as a couple for 1 year or more), but for Australians travelling, working or retiring overseas, being able to simply prove the relationship status would probably help. That being said, I’m not sure why the government doesn’t just allow de facto couples to apply for a certificate stating they are in a de facto relationship, which act as the same thing. Hmmmm, maybe because ‘de facto’ is short for ‘de facto marriage’?

    (5) And, further related to the point above, although Australia has a long history of recognising de facto couples (of which we can be proud – not forcing couples to marry to get certain rights, like in the US and many other countries), the term ‘de facto’ is not well understood outside Australia. So, adopting the term ‘Civil Union’ for Australian de facto relationships would probably help communicate these relationships more easily internationally.

    But, would I get a Civil Union? I don’t see the point. I’m already in a de facto relationship, and I don’t need a piece of paper to prove it.

    Marriage, on the other hand…

  21. Hey,
    I got started a little early so I hit the 1600 mark today πŸ™‚ I’m very busty the next couple of weekends though so getting the 50k mark will be difficult but we WILL get there!
    Good Luck with it

  22. I’m with you Sel. Very well said!

  23. Thanks Marita. I try not to get drawn into this type of argument but after hearing what people think about me, people who’ve never met me, I’m so over being quiet and polite.
    I don’t understand what people think is going to happen if I am legally allowed to get married.
    It remains to be seen if our politicians have the courage to end the discrimination.

  24. I couldn’t have said it better myself. You go girl.

  25. I can’t understand why people can’t get off their high horses – but I’m all for your marriage to be legally recognised.
    And I must add that, that was very well said. πŸ™‚

  26. Hey Selena, I went to school with Teresa, so I don’t know you, but I read your blog and had tears in my eyes. It was well said and hopefully some people will read it and actually think about how we treat each other! Let’s hope some of the pollies grow some kahunas and let’s get this done!!! :):) Bec

  27. Proud to say I know you both. So very well said Sel, I have emailed the link to all my contacts. Lets get the truth out there xox

  28. Hello and well done. It takes courage to speak out. Do not stop. Chrissy

  29. Oh, Selena, I just HAD to comment – re: kitwalker05 – let’s stoop to her level and totally generalise. As a heterosexual woman of your age, I have had three children. I am guessing, as a woman who isn’t availing herself of sperm everytime she shares her body with her lover, you probably don’t have three children. So who has been the bigger burden on the health system? HUH? LOL LOL LOL Oh, and then the burden of those children I brought into the world – what about them? Are they classed as MY burden too? I would say they are my burden and therefore contribute to the burden I put on the health system. And that is not even debating the fact that she is saying people using the health system are putting a ‘burden’ on it. LOL LOL LOL

  30. I saw your comment on the Bundy paper website Selena. I can’t believe the shit coming out of the mouths of some people, and like these ignorant people, some MP’s are just as hateful.

    I began this petition against repealing Qld Civil Unions – feel free to spread the word.


  31. kitwalker05 is an intolerant bigot and her views decline the moral values of our society, not who you sleep with or want to marry. It is an undeniable fact that this town is full of uneducated, intolerant and unempathetic fools. Bullies bully because they hear this stuff from their parents, whether its about weight, hair colour, nose shape, the idea that this is an acceptable reason to bully is first heard at home. If everyone accepted everyone else for THEM not their weight, not their skin colour, not the clothes they wear, then bullying would not exist. Children don’t see anything as “wrong” until they are told it is. The most worrying thing is that THESE people are breeding and passing on their biased views and applaude anyone who agrees with them.

  32. I come into contact with Mr Messenger on a regular basis and I can safely say he is the most morally corrupt and unethical politician in Queensland Parliament. He regularly threatens, bullies, abuses and denigrates the town’s journalists, councillors, Queensland Health workers and anyone in a position of authority who can undermine some of the blatant lies he tells.

  33. Selena, you sure know how to twist things. I personally know and respect gay people and none of these seek to do anything more than live their lives PRIVATELY and in peace. Further I come not from the religious aspect and think it entirely appropriate that as you put it,seek “to walk down the isle with your partner”, i.e. its about partnership. However and no matter how its put, it should not be to the same form of ceremony we and others through the ages have taken. Get on with forming your own form of bonding ceremony and that’s fine with me, just do not impinge on mine. In fact it is nothing to do with me as is your choice of a car make, reading matter and etc,etc.!
    Noel Bowman, Bargara (who is neither anonymous nor frightened to attach his name).

  34. Noel your marriage ceremony won’t be diminished, unless in your mind, you allow it to be.

    Selena, I truly think it won’t be long now until you can have your relationship recognized through marriage. The tides are changing for the better.

  35. I am indeed nonplussed why some of the gay community are so fixated on entering into a ceremony designed for heterosexual (1 male + 1 female) twosomes. What is it I fail to understand or is there some under wraps reason not yet released. Finally unless there is some pressing reason for a personal rebuttal this will be my last on this subject; however I will finish by answering the question asked, yes I do feel my marriage of 56 years is devalued or diminished if and/or when it becomes a meaningless ‘open slather’ ceremony. Sorry!
    Noel Bowman, Bargara

  36. Hi Noel,

    The concepts of a man and a woman walking down the isle is not only obsolete but also based from Religion – the reasons behind why gay people are frowned apon and are not considered equal is because of the church – ‘its a sin’ therefore branching down the stems of society – if your gay well go away – you can live your life but make sure we dont know about it. My sister is gay and she has every right to get married – she is no different to me or you – she if anything probably has more balls than both of us put together. I could not imagine a life where I am constantly considered second class and have been for many years – gay people have always been around, its just that now – more and more people are starting to realise that the church is A – absolute crock about a mythical person and B realising that you wouldnt even know that they are gay until they tell you.

    also in regards to ruby reds comments about children growing up with 2 parents of the same sex – I think that is disgusting – I grew up with a single mother, does that make me less of a person or a more damaged child because of this, simply because I didnt have one of each?? If anything we grow and understand life and people so much more. Gah just so frustrated that people can live with such closed minds…

    Selena, goodluck with everything – Gay people will be able to liberate and get married in due time and the time is coming.

  37. Thanks everyone for your comments.

    Noel, you’re still failing to explain how you feel me being allowed to be married will devalue your own marriage.

    It’s definitely not the case that it would be “open slather” as you put it. To me, marriage is an important institution that signifies monogomy, stability, love and partnership. Yes, I already have those things so marriage doesn’t change that. However, along with the ceremony and declaring your intentions in front of family and friends, it also comes with rights and responsibilities conferred by the government.
    I don’t want to go into all of them, but the most basic is that you are granted next of kin status to your partner, which becomes important in mostly dire situations.
    For example, if my partner were to become ill or incapacitated, I am not automatically allowed to have a say in her well-being, as I would if I were married to her. As it stands currently, a relative could sweep in and make those decisions instead. Yes, we have gone to the expense of having powers of attorney drawn up, but this could still be fought through the courts.

    As for devaluing your marriage, I would think there are far worse things that would do that. Cheating and domestic violence, for example. Do they not go against marriage vows?

    My personal view is that there should be two distinct levels of marriage – religious marriage, performed by the church, and civil marriage, governed by the state. It is civil marriage I seek, along with the associated rights and responsibilities, and recognition. No more, no less.

  38. Although I am not especially religious you make a fair point about the civil and religious ceremonies. Perhaps that or something like it is the answer. Whatever best of luck and a Merry Christmas.
    Noel Bowman, Bargara

  39. taking the steering wheel, does that mean you will get you licence this year too!!

  40. I like your beer posts.

    For beer lovers, and for the beer-curious, I think your beer posts would make a great stand-alone blog. And companion facebook page. If you wanted to have a stand-alone beer blog. And companion facebook page. Oh, and maybe a column in the Sunday Mail.

    I like your sports posts.

    Though, you don’t write about sport nearly as often as you do about beer. Sports and beer is a popular pairing. So you could do a sports and beer blog. Call it, say, “Speer and Borts”? Or, “Dehydrate and Rehydrate”? Or just simply, “Sunday Sesh”?

    I like your gay rights posts.

    Well, I like gay rights. And gays. And well, rights. With any luck marriage in Australia will be for any two consenting adults, regardless of their gender, and you won’t need to write about it anymore. But there will always be more beer to try. And more sport to comment on.

    Most of all, I like your posts about writing.

    About what you want to do. About what you’re doing. About what you’ve done. I don’t know why, but I do.

    Best wishes with the re-branding. I can relate to the conundrum of multiple interests and whether to put fences around them or let them graize together.

    You haven’t asked for my 2 cents, but here it is: Develop the Beer Shit (possibly with a Sport Shit tie-in) in a separate blog (which you can always link from your Gay Rights Shit and your Writing Shit if you want).

    Best wishes with your works of fiction.

  41. Thanks for your comment, Anon. Always happy for input. It’s hard keeping a handle on the shit, but there’s so much of it, I may as well do something useful with it.
    I love doing the beer blogs – not least because I’ve discovered some great beers. Can’t wait to get them started again.
    And there’s so much other interesting shit going on it’s hard not to want to blog about it. What did we ever do without the internet?
    Feel free to stop by and offer up your 2 cents worth any time.

  42. Well, that’s awesome news. But I totally get the scary! We moved to one wage naturally through the arrival of my son (although, I still do a few hours a week paid work). Now, don’t get me wrong, I love my son, but I really would love to be able to afford a little more daycare to get a little more writing done! Switching the brain from work to mothering to creative writing is a real task!
    And so, I say: YAY YOU! Write. I wish you all the very best.

  43. It’s not true that nobody is doing it. All my books have lesbian main characters but no sexual content (beyond tame stuff like kissing). All my books are about shit that happens to women who just happen to be lesbian. I’m not the only one who writes that type of story.

    The problems are: As a reader, how do you find those stories? And as a writer, how do you find the people who want to read that type of story? I don’t have answers for those questions (yet).

  44. Amen. I am on that boat with you. I agree with Sarah Errritch also. The problem is putting the right reader with the right book. I have been a loud proponent of an honest assessment of the lesbian fiction category. I really don’t think it is too much to ask to make it easier for the erotica reader to find material, and the reader who prefers a standard genre fiction book with lesbian main characters to find her selections as well. It’s disdainful and disfranchising to dismiss readers who complain of unexpected sexual content in a lesbian fiction book. The wave of the hand says, “Thanks for stopping by, but lesbian fiction is not for you if you don’t want the pages sizzling.” There are quite a few of us writers of fiction with lesbian characters who do not produce erotic lesbian romance novels, which is different from erotica as I have recently learned. We fade to black authors, or fade to gray as my friend says of my novels, are being dismissed with the readers who are seeking our books. So off to genre land we go to be hidden among the heterosexual books, unable to use the lesbian fiction label because it doesn’t fit.

  45. Yep, I’m hooked on this series, too. Pre-ordered Dust and can’t wait. Cool post, Selena!

  46. Thanks mate. Yes, I waited for each new release after I devoured the first 5 wool books, and I’m eagerly awaiting Dust. I love the way he forges the connection between the reader and the characters, which is something I am aiming for with my own work. Thanks for commenting πŸ™‚

  47. Congratulations on your new shiny blog. Looking forward to reading more here in the near and far future. I may already be on your list, but I’m signing up again, just in case.

    Have fun!

  48. Teresa Brecknell

    October 30, 2013 at 10:15 am

    I know a little bit more about you now.

  49. I enjoyed the book, Waiting for the sequel next year. Congratulation on having your first book published. I look forward to reading more from you

  50. Why am I just now seeing this? OMG! Thank you so much! Now I’m gonna stalk you… hehehehe…

  51. You don’t google yourself to see who’s talking about you? How humble of you, lol. Seriously though, I do love your work, though I don’t have anywhere near enough time to read your latest stuff, let alone anyone else’s. Also, I’m phasing out this blog, so if you want to check whether I talk about you again, the new site is srsilcox.com I’m hoping I can work out how to pull this stuff across to the new site, but I’m not as tech-savvy as I’d like to be.
    Thanks for stopping by mate πŸ™‚

  52. Love both blogs about Daisy & Ruby! My Halley, the namesake of Dog Ear Audio, is also a rescue dog. Bless you for adopting not one, but two pups. Aren’t they the best? πŸ™‚
    Continued good luck with your writing. So happy for you that you have two four-legged muses to help show that it is your job “to be your best self” and to write “what you are passionate about, and do this in your own unique voice”. Can’t ask for more than that!
    Happy weekend to you both!…I mean, all four of you. πŸ™‚

    • admin

      April 11, 2014 at 5:04 am

      Thanks Karen. I’ve always had animals in my family, so getting two rescue dogs was a no-brainer. Rubes is definitely the clown of the family – very loving and uncoordinated, and Daisy is the athlete – easily excitable and never-ending amount of energy. They certainly keep us on our toes πŸ™‚

  53. My fav is Pushing Daisies

  54. I am ashamed of myself that after a ver very long time of being your friend that I found some of these fact very interesting reading them for the first time.

  55. Now I know what to bring next time I pass through your town!!

  56. Astro Boy Fanfic? That has got to be the very coolest thing for a fifth grader to be doing with their spare time πŸ˜‰

  57. I love this post. A couple of the blogs I’ve been reading today have touched on sexual orientation as the be all and end all plot device for lgbt writing. I think it’s a combination of falling back on something we know intimately (we all came out at one stage) and playing it safe. It’s proven theme in lgbt literature and since we’re already writing in a narrow niche, perhaps we’re not confident to narrow it further? Perhaps we are all sticking to the tried and true coming out stories and the struggle to face a society we may not always fit into?

    It’s great that you’re putting thought into writing lesbian characters where sexual orientation isn’t really an issue. It just is – not further discussion required. I am striving to do exactly that also. My characters aren’t defined by their sexuality, they are defined by the same traits straight characters are defined by. I think this is happening more and more lately in our genre which is just brilliant. Brilliant because of the life imitating art and vice-versa phenomenon.

    I might go and write some musings on my own blog – thanks to you and your wife for the inspiration!

    • admin

      August 29, 2014 at 4:54 am

      Agree with your thoughts. I’d also add that maybe it’s time for writers like us to widen the scope of lesbian literature to include stories that depend on problems and plots that don’t hinge on the sexuality of the characters. I’ve always written my characters that way – I guess that’s because it’s not been part of my life experience to suffer badly from any type of discrimination. I know it exists, and it’s a perfectly valid subject to write about, but I think we need more of the non-angsty stories to skew us to the happier side πŸ™‚

  58. latest book is called?

  59. I love this book… And on wattpad you said we all need to sign in before 5 March … How do we sign in? <3

    • admin

      February 28, 2016 at 1:21 am

      I’m so glad you enjoyed Crush πŸ™‚ You can sign up to the email list at this link – http://eepurl.com/bEznbj – and then on Saturday the 5th of March, you’ll get an email that will explain everything about the new release and a few surprises.


  60. Thanks for putting the thoughts and feelings of so many of us in such an eloquent way xxx

  61. So beautiful and well written. Even though we’ve never met I want you to know you’re not alone. We are all in this together and one day, I’m not sure when but one day, love WILL win. Sending Oceans of strength to you, today and every day πŸ™ Thank you for being “our” voice x

  62. Selena, this is a powerful blog. I am so glad you did add your voice to share how this horrific event has touched your life. Yes, living in isolation can be incredibly stressful and lonely at times. I hope the availability of this wonderful way of staying in touch at least electronically , will ease some of that pain and frustration.
    I struggled yesterday whether to,put out my rainbow flag yesterday, but as I live in a remote and damnable conservative area, too, I thought about why I would do it and what might happen.
    The flag means a lot to me, but would flying it change anyone’s minds? Am I prepared to defend myself or my property if some idiot with narrow-minded views thought he’d have the right to ‘do something’ about it? The answer to both these questions was no, so I’ve kept the flag inside where I can enjoy it and then reached out to my internet friends to get the support I needed.
    Perhaps, one day you will be able to feel safe to attend restaurants and social events where you live. Perhaps you have more support than you know now.
    I guess, what I want to say, is that you are not alone. Your words and feelings do matter. I am so glad you took the time to write what you did. Today, you helped me see that no matter the distance, we are all in this together.
    And that will make us strong.

  63. Stephanie Cataldo

    February 26, 2017 at 1:37 pm


    That is a link to my review of Crush on Amazon. I also posted the review on Goodreads on the books page under Steph.
    I loved your book! Tried signing up for your mailing list, but the website won’t let me. Sorry πŸ™

  64. I’m with you on the ‘girl’ thing. Especially when done by men (Phil Gould, I’m looking at you!), but it needs to be stamped out by ALL commentators. To me, every time I hear the word ‘girl’ when referring to women, it’s an indication of the lack of respect held for women generally within society. It’s infuriating and has to change

    • Selena

      June 25, 2018 at 11:45 pm

      It’s amazing how writing for a living changes your view on how language works. I’m now very aware of my word usage no matter the situation. It’s affording basic respect to everyone really, isn’t it? Not so hard when you put in a little bit of effort πŸ™‚

  65. Thanks for sharing. I strive to use boy/young men/men, girl/young women/women and they/them with respect. I’m comfortable that I use ‘folks’ more than most folk. I challenge abusive language wherever I can.

    Have you read this? https://www.villagevoice.com/2018/06/20/how-i-broke-and-botched-the-brandon-teena-story/

    • Selena

      June 25, 2018 at 11:43 pm

      That article had come across my social media a few days ago but I hadn’t had the chance to read it yet. Thanks for putting it on my radar again. Will definitely read it once my word count for today is done πŸ™‚

  66. Mouse story was a great read with great writing can’t wait to see more of this style from you.

  67. Keep writing and sticking that head of yours out there mate. It is so very welcome. Love your work xxx

  68. On the assumption that my local library is your local library πŸ˜‰ they don’t have an LGBT+ section period. I don’t borrow ebooks from the library, but I do borrow paperbacks and honestly, the categorisation is pretty awful. I have four of my books in the same local library. All four are romances. All four are categorised as erotica, despite having maybe one or two sex scenes, certainly less than any book by Nora Roberts or her ilk who IS categorised as romance.

    I think it’s a form of invisibility tbh. I need to get organised and try and maybe meet with them to get a LGBT section on those little spine categories. Noosa Library managed it recently. Let’s hope up the road can too.

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